Being in love is a feeling that’s difficult to describe, and it’s not the same for every person.
It’s a mix of joy and affection, combined with a feeling of contentment – or something like that. And meeting “the one” usually doesn’t happen like it does in the movies either.
Unfortunately, there isn’t a foolproof test or method, but you can be fairly confident in your relationship if you notice signs that are characteristic of a truly special connection between two people.
If you have a bunch of intense and confusing feelings, and want to know for sure if you’ve really found the one you’re meant to spend your life with, here are a few things that will help you figure it out!
1. You Can Be Yourself.
One of the first signs suggesting you’ve found the one is when you’re comfortable showing all of your sides to this person. The good, the bad, the ugly… your front side, your back side…
It’s easy to be yourself around this person. You don’t feel like you have to hide your silly side, or quiet down your personality, because your partner loves those special qualities about you.
You can make the corniest, silliest jokes possible, and know that you’ll both crack up over it. You don’t feel the need to act “cool” around them, and you can totally let yourself go.
2. You Have the Same Life Priorities.
Opposites may attract, but they rarely make for a good long-term relationship. You know you’ve met your other half when you want to walk similar paths in life.
Compatibility really is key when it comes to creating a deep and lasting connection between two people.
If your priorities match up well, then you have a much better chance of long-term happiness and fulfillment together.
Maybe both of you have different fantasies of where you want to travel, or what kind of dog you’ll want to have.
But when it comes down to the major things, like deciding whether you want to get married or have children, you share the same vision.
3. You Argue Seldom, But Passionately.
Everyone argues once in a while, but you don’t challenge each other on insignificant moments just to prove “who’s right.” You let most things go, but when you do have an argument, you aren’t insulting or rude.
You simply show your passion for whatever it is you’re arguing about, and you both communicate your thoughts and feelings clearly and are willing to compromise when the situation calls for it.
You also know how to give each other space and your fights usually cool down on their own.
4. You Respect Each Other Deeply.
Mutual respect is crucial for a healthy relationship.
Without that respect, there’s simply no way to create and build a secure foundation where you can enjoy all of the benefits of a deep and strong relationship.
With mutual respect, the relationship has a strong chance at thriving, and all the aspects of your connection blossom. Your communication improves. Your commitment deepens, and your trust grows.
5. You Both Are Committed.
A companion you want for life is a person who is committed to you and the relationship.
If you have found someone who is willing to always put in the effort to have a happy and healthy relationship, you’ve probably found “the one” for you.
6. Anywhere Is Exciting.
You don’t have to be in the Bahamas or at the best club in town to be having the time of your life.
Excitement can happen anywhere when you’re with each other. Some of the best dates you two have had were those nights when you stayed up late, eating pizza and just talking.
7. People Notice How Happy You Seem.
You know you’re in a happy place when people notice you still have that same glow of being in love that you did in the beginning. It just shows in your face, the way you carry yourself, and how you talk to others.
Your family and friends couldn’t be happier for you, and some of them are probably a little envious of the love you have found.
8. You’re Madly in Love, but there’s more Than That.
Even though you both are madly in love — love isn’t all this relationship has to offer. You feel supported by your partner, secure, respected, and you enjoy a feeling of fulfillment.
Love alone doesn’t carry a relationship. You need more than that, and luckily, you’ve found it.
9. You Know Deep Down Inside.
You’ve figured out that you’ve met “the one” because you feel it in your heart. But, you also feel it in your gut.
We have our intuitions for a reason, and your intuition is telling you that you’ve made the right choice.
10. Your Partner Inspires You To Be Better.
A good partner is one that accepts you for who you are.
A great partner, on the other hand, accepts you and loves you for who you are, but also encourages you to be your best.
You want to look your best, work your hardest, and follow your dreams all the more when you’re with this person, not because they pressure you to be a certain way, but rather because they inspire you to be the very best version of yourself you can be.
In short, when you’ve met the one, you wouldn’t trade them for the world.
Sure, settling down means you probably won’t have all those late nights with your friends, and you’ll have to make decisions as a couple instead of independently… but who says these are bad things?
